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April 07, 2006

On Manners

If I told you that my friend died from colorectal cancer, would your first response be "Huh, was he a homosexual?"

Of course it wouldn't.

However, this bigoted bitch thought the question was somehow appropriate.

Now, let it be known, that dear alessandra is a crazy kookity kook, convinced that any bare booby is just a timebomb waiting to turn a man into a sex offender, and that anything other than missionary-position sex is an indicator of the depravity of our age. I suppose I could have stopped at "crazy kookity kook," eh?

Anyway, I had just returned from Tom's memorial service when I read her comment. Still filled with thoughts of my friend and of what a truly good human being he was, making me pale in comparison, to see a bigot go on the offense not just (ignorantly and incorrectly) against my friend, but against many people I consider friends was simply too much.

My response (scroll through the comments for the whole exchange) was, well, also not the most polite:

No, you worthless sack of shit disguised as a human being. He was a happily married newlywed to a beautiful bride. He was generous and compassionate and accepted everyone regardless of who they were. He was the kind of person you could hold up as an example for us all, on how we should live and treat one another and embrace life to the fullest.

That you even think such a question is remotely funny, let alone appropriate, is an indicator that you are an examplar of what is wrong with humanity, a walking genetic defect whose dad should have kept his dick in his pants and spare the world such a stinking twat of a woman.

No offense to other women, of course. I think women are terrific (and, even though I've seen many a naked booby on the page and the screen, I'm still not a sex abuser, despite alessandra's bizarre thoughts on the matter).

I remain convinced that alessandra's tremendous anti-porn crusade, her narrow sense of sexuality, and her bigoted stance on homosexuality are all the result of sexual abuse as a child. I've known a few women who had been sexually abused by trusted figures in their lives, and each had one or another dysfunction when it came to their sexuality and views on sexual mores. It's an unfortunate tragedy, but no justification for insane blathering.

If alessandra hasn't been sexually abused, well, then - I suppose - she's just a nutcase, sans excuse. And that's too bad.

Update: Just read more of Tom's story at a memorial site. Maybe reading this would help alessandra to appreciate that behind every innocent death is a world of family and friends left in pain; a life story, the ending of which is but one small chapter; and, in this case, a human being deserving of respect for putting up a hell of a fight when the odds were stacked against him.

Maybe it would. I doubt it, and I'll not link to it lest she fill the comments with her inane bigotry and irrational nonsense. She's no problem intruding on my grief, so I'm sure she'd happily make Tom's widow cry more. A brain so warped and disengaged from reality is unlikely to appreciate the patterns that make life's tapestry so beautiful and interesting.

So, let me speak to alessandra in words so plain she can understand them without aid: go fuck yourself.

Update 2: The prosecution presents into evidence this post in support of the accusation that alessandra is a whackjob:

If [Hitler] were alive today, and if he couldn´t find his way in some military, secret police system, I have no doubt he could become a substantial millionaire, building an empire of violent pornography, using people of all ages, including children.

Yup, that just reeks of sanity, doesn't it?