While God can’t be bothered to do significant things like stopping airliners from crashing into buildings, saving small children from murderers, or feeding the hungry, he can find it in his infinite heart to help save the marriage of a very rich couple.
Denise Jackson knew that her marriage to Alan Jackson wasn’t perfect. She was too needy and insecure in the relationship, and he was on the road a lot, becoming one of country’s biggest superstars.
Still, she wasn’t prepared for the shock she got in 1998, shortly after the birth of their third child, when Jackson — her sweetheart since their teen years — told her that he didn’t want to be in the marriage anymore. Hurt and disillusioned, she tried everything to get him back, and turned to prayer.
A revelation came one day when a friend told her she wouldn’t pray for Alan Jackson to come back, but instead, would pray for Denise Jackson to become the woman that God intended her to be. From that day on, Denise Jackson began to reassess the role God played in her life — and, instead of focusing on how to repair her relationship with her husband, put her efforts into rebuilding her relationship with God. In the end, she says, becoming closer to God helped her become closer to her husband — and save her marriage.
Wow, what a lovely story. The big guy upstairs, when perceived through a very narrow scope and being sure to ignore all the horrors in the world, sure is one swell guy.
I’m thinking that what saved the marriage is that Denise Jackson quit being so needy and insecure, two traits which I believe most men and women find very annoying, particularly when asking themselves “I signed up for this for the rest of my life?”
Perhaps she found her new faith inspiring her to believe she’s worthy with or without a man, or perhaps it was a crutch allowing her to redirect her “woe is me” neediness toward the myth in her head.
Regardless, the change was one that she had to internalize as necessary and then act upon. It’s sad that she once had little self-worth, and it’s sad that she sees a need to base her current self-esteem upon fairy tales.
Denise, you have worth as a person, whether or not you’re married to the man shameless enough to sing a line as awful as “Way down yonder on the Chattahoochee /It gets hotter than a hoochie coochie.”
Although that doesn’t really help.